I am a human pacifier, a human baby swing and baby gym!!! At the moment I never put the baby down, pretty much. When others would give a pacifier, I put her on my breast. When I could put her in a swing or hand her over to someone else, ‘cos no-one is here and I don’t have a swing, I get up and rock and bounce her. When others may carve out a moment for themselves and lay the baby down to stare at her toys on a baby gym, I sit with Anya on my legs and dangle toys in front of her.
In some ways I think this benefits her, all this personalised, tailored attention. She is swiping at toys, already, for example and I think that is partly due to the interaction.
Not sure it benefits me, though. Having moved recently-ish to the area, I don’t have a strong support system in place here. So I have no-one to help me care for the baby, except for wonderful K – but he works. And my principles (which gravitate much toward an attachment parenting style approach) threaten to deplete me of energy completely.
Must find a middle ground.